Defining Sexuality: A Lesson In Sexy Vocabulary

What is sexuality? That’s a really great question and one that deserves a really great answer. Let’s start by traveling back in time to middle school and looking it up in the ol’ dictionary. According to whichever definition you prefer, sexuality is defined as “the capacity to have sexual feelings,” “someone’s sexual orientation or inclination,” “sexual actions” or “the state of being sexual.”

Translation: there are LOTS of ways to describe what sexuality really means. It’s not just sexual activity, and it’s not just about being gay, straight, bisexual, queer or any other sexual preference. Sexuality is about who we are from a sexual perspective. It’s our behavior, our desires, our emotions, our expressions and our relationships. It’s our complete sexual personas.

Here at Beforeplay.org, we’re strong believers that there is no “normal” or “only one way” in the world of sexuality. There are so many unique and interesting factors that contribute to each person’s sexual identity, and we’re here to provide resources and conversation starters to help you become more comfortable with you own sexuality. Maybe you’re questioning your sexual orientation. Perhaps you’re afraid to come out of the closet as gay or lesbian to your family or friends. Or maybe you’re looking for health care providers who understand the needs of anyone identifying as LGBTQ. Whatever it is, you can explore your interests, find all kinds of tools and ideas and discover how sexuality can be a healthy part of your life in our sexuality section (and throughout the rest of Beforeplay.org).